` THE RALLY `
Friday, November 14, 2008
Many a times, people do not realise that they are egoistic and fouled temper. Its usually with this combination that they cannot accept criticism. For those who has already made it in life, good for them, it doesn’t really matter if people were to criticise them. Often, egoistic people doesn’t realise how big their ego is and thus making people around them irritated. There is another type of egoistic people, those whose ego larger then earth but has not made it there yet. Pathetic as it seems, they still show people how good they are and think that they are always right and never realised that their ego is so huge. To some, winning an argument is a must, to others, it may just be about explaining their chain of thoughts what causes them to be egoistic. A child once told his mother off when she was criticising him that what a lousy mother she is for being demoralising him everyday with no encouragement at all. Foolishly this child even challenged his mother to name 5 good things about him, and when was the last time she commented on him, but never did he realise that all along, there were really no good things about him. It dawn on him one day that all the people around him, especially all his kin and loved ones have been trying to tell him the same thing. Anger management and accept criticism to improve is the way to go for most people. The child’s father once related an experience of his that a lot of people had looked down on him when he was younger, thus giving him the urge to succeeded in life. It is about the constant torture and knowing the key trigger to inflict pain and anger to push someone to succeed, and in the process it may be very very hurting to everyone but somehow it may or may not successful. Encouragement and commenting are two different things altogether, and the child realises that he has nothing, no accomplishments, nothing, therefore one day, he had just given up his will of fighting and arguing and accepting the fact that however big his ego, whether he realise the magnitude of it or not, it doest really matter as he was a no one in life. In fact, according to this child, I spoke to, it wasn’t about winning or losing an argument but the child only wants a chance to speak his mind/thoughts, let the other parties, think about it and then give a conclusion what their view is, and if both views are different, then they should each do it differently. “Pride kill” as often as it said by people, some beg to differ, some will succeed just so to ensure that they have the respect they ought to have, some just let it kill them. The whole society is in a rat race right now, as the currency moves, as the consumer price index and the stock market moves, lives are changing, people’s thoughts are changing, cultures are changing, but one thing maintains, the world’s economy will never let several sector fall, finance, education and healthcare. This child has along knew of many factors that affect society, but has identified what is important, to gain back the respect of others, maybe because of his huge ego that he had never realised, because of the wrong doings of his and the people around him who affected him. This child I spoke to has many unseen factors that he wishes to keep to himself but i heard the gist of it and I realise that he pities himself. Pitying oneself, is not going to bring about any changes but doing something about his situation and changing his attitude will be the best option out. Anger management classes, would be a good way to start as criticism affects his mood and his anger immediately breaks out. This child told me one thing, which I have yet to reply him, as I do not really have this answer, if he were to change and accept everything, will things ultimately change for him? He was concerned that the other people whose ego is larger then life doesn’t change and why should he go through all these. But I have one answer in responding his most recent email, that I picked up for lecture yesterday, which I heard many qualified speakers talk about but had totally forgotten it myself. I composed an email and wrote back to this child, explain what my university lecturer talked about, a talk which I heard umpteen times and have totally got seasoned to it, the lecturer said: “ her boss usually tells her she isn’t good at writing and thus she never really wrote, until recently her new boss encourage her to team up with another professor and write a book, and it was publish, and she carried on writing and when she met up with her ex boss, she gave her ex boss four books that was published, 1 of which was a joint effort with a professor.” the lesson the lecturer gave me was why let others demoralise you, there is a term, self motivation, one need to be self motivated. I wrote a corresponded mail back to they boy with only to receive another email that simply says : how? The thing is, no one will tell you how, its something that has to figure out yourself and quickly as time waits for no men. I also shared with this child about my personal issues, where I have been labelled by 3 different people, sensitive, argumentative, and with a temper that clouds my rational thinking. it took 3 people to tell me the same thing before I realised it. Yes I have realised this fact, yes I am and want to change, but I too questioned myself, whether does these 3 people know that they have the same issue? but I realise that it doesn’t matter, change yourself before you change others is the way to go. Like what was mentioned earlier, the people who have made it and cannot accept criticism compared to those who cannot make it (losers) who cannot accept criticism makes a huge difference. Corresponding with this child has been an interesting insight, nevertheless, I believe that everyone should continue to improve themselves through the short pathetic life they have on earth.
brakes applied at |11/14/2008 12:25:00 AM|
